I wanted to share some encouragement with you today. Full disclosure: I had one the most challenging parenting days yesterday that I have had in awhile. I’ll spare you the gory details, but suffice it to say I was disappointed in how I handled a couple situations with my kids and my wife. No one likes to have those kind of days. It can leave you discouraged and uncertain how to turn the day around and fix the damage done.
“Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.” – Carl Jung
So, on to the encouragement part! Here is what I did to take care of myself and my family yesterday.
1. Took time away from the situation to calm myself down
2. Apologized to my kids for my poor choices
3. Communicated my feelings clearly
4. Followed up with hugs and affection
5. Called a family meeting to make sure nothing was left unresolved
6. Then we all did something fun together (shopping and eating fried chicken!)
“Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” – Charles R. Swindoll
The first part of the day was quite rough, but in the end we were all connected and having fun together. I firmly believe that the way you and I repair those emotional breaks with our kids makes all the difference in the world. We can never be perfect parents. The truth is that even the most calm and caring parents can crack under stress and difficult circumstances. You can show your kids that you mistakes too and you will always seek to make things right.
“The best gift you can give your kids is to tend your own garden, cultivating strength, humor & kindness.” – Don McMannis, PhD