Have you ever wondered what to do about your teen’s negative attitude? Maybe he hardly ever has anything positive to say, is often grumbly and dissatisfied or rarely says thank you. Nothing you say to him seems to sink in or help him change his mind.
If your teenager is like so many others, he may have his eyes and fingers constantly glued to his phone while texting madly. Well, I found a possible solution, or at least something that could start to change his perception on life.
The solution is grateful160 and I will tell you about my experience with it in a minute.
It turns out that gratitude, the quality of being thankful, is actually a simple and extremely helpful practice. One that teenagers as well as adults are often not experienced in.
“Cultivating an attitude of gratitude has been linked to better health, sounder sleep, less anxiety and depression, higher long-term satisfaction with life and kinder behavior toward others.” – John Tierney, New York Times
I won’t go into all the research here, but trust me when I say that practicing gratitude can make a huge difference. Almost every time that I encourage one of my counseling clients to keep a gratitude journal they tell me that it is helpful. It shifts their perspective, improves their mood and helps them get along better with their family. All good things.
Ok, so here are the details on grateful160. It is a free online gratitude journal that is based on texting. You set it up to text you one to four times per day with a simple question.
“Greetings, Uriah! What do you have to be grateful for right now?”
You just take a minute to think and then respond with a quick text message. Done.
Once a week, the service sends you an email reminding you of all the things you have been grateful for that week. At any point you can check the journal online with your username and password.
I have to say that I have been enjoying taking pause and purposefully focusing on the good things in my life. And then, being reminded again with an email is a nice touch.
This could be great for your teenager, whether he is disgruntled and unhappy or generally well adjusted.
Teens are experts at texting and this would take very little effort. This could be a simple way to help your son focus more on what is good and what is going well in his life.
Take a look and tell me what you think. Here is the link – grateful160